Posting here is very helpful and the advice and feedback I've been getting has been great...but obsessing and analyzing everything I say/do is just causing more self-inflicted pain.
It also doesn't help that I'm borrowing from other people's sitches and that's contributing to my grief and in some ways holding me back from what I want to accomplish.
So I need to force myself to come here only when I needed, but walk away afterwards. This place medicates me but I'm abusing that to a certain extent.