I read your update and this is the part where I get a confused. When you talk about the nice time that you and your wife had and how slowly the divorce has progressed it just seems like this is all so unnecessary. Have you sought the advice of a relationship expert or counselor to ask if your approach is what they recommend? Do you think you made it too easy on your wife by keeping the relationship amicable and letting her feel that she can have the best of both worlds? A friendship with you and spending time together while getting to live on her own being divorced? What if you made one final push towards reconciliation and fought to keep the marriage? What if you showed her a strong, confident man who believes strongly in salvaging the life you two built together? What if you sweep her off her feet to a romantic getaway and pursue her like you did back when you first met? I'm not proposing you do those things but just asking whether you've gotten a second opinion from an expert or someone from a different school of thought? I feel when you get to this point you have nothing to lose but I guess at the end-of-the-day if you've tried everything and your spouse still doesn't want to be with you then all you can do is accept the new state of affairs and go through with the divorce.
