Husband cheated, trying 180 (3)

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Kech,
Keeping up with your posts and really feel for you in the situation you are in.
I am no expert and you have some great people who are experienced giving you great advice on here.
My best advice is that you kind of have to take yourself out of the minutia of everything bearing down on you at one. Do you miss him? yes. Do you fear for your family and their future? yes. Do you hate the situation that he has put you and your children in? yes.

I'm sure presently this is constantly consuming every moment of every day for you. You can't get it out of your mind. It is tough to concentrate and get anything done, let alone get it done well.

This is where DB'ing helps. This is about you. If this is all about him and your MR, you can never get out of your own way to even attempt to help yourself. Without that, there is probably no successful path to a new MR. I am in the depths of my own sitch. There were days where I was consumed by it. It dominated my world. What is she thinking/doing, Why is she doing those things? Why is she doing this to our family and to me?

You will have those thoughts. You need to find a way to not ignore them, but deal with them quickly. Don't let them affect your minute, hour or day too long. And be sure not to let your H know this is affecting you. Trust me, he knows. Be the best person you can be. Scream in your car when no one is around if you need to. Put your earbuds in and lose yourself in some relaxing music. Or get out and GAL. If you are going to be around him, look the best you can. Always. It doesn't mean cocktail dress, heels and full make up, but it means you are taking pride in yourself and your appearance. Faking it is good and there is a lot of that. But make sure you are confident in yourself and don't overdo it.

This is a tough time for you and I am praying for you and your family.
Best of luck!