Yep, it's all about appearances. Your xh is absolutely nuts, i.e., bouncing off the walls. I'm glad you didn't interact w/him.
Keep focusing on you and your children and be sure to take time for yourself. Breathe!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
