i agree with everything Another Stander has given you except the issue with your confronting your W about the EA... i think you were right to do it... so many LBS avoid it like the plague--and i don't ever see that it helps them... when i was a WW, my H knew about my EA early on and said nothing... eventually the EA became a PA... had he mentioned it right away, i would have thrown myself at his feet, and i would have walked away from OM as i was not yet attached... once i became attached, it became difficult to walk away... i don't think you should keep bringing him up now... just don't let her think you are a fool...
i do get her anger toward you... i am amazed at how many LBHusbands realize at BD how in love they are with their wives, even after years of neglecting their wives... i don't get it... but at this point, it's too late to figure that out... now you must deal with the issue at hand...
