Slow down, take a deep breath. Center yourself. Take the long-term view.
So why are you. We are all big proponents of STAYING in the house. If the WAW wants to leave then hold the door open for her. Don't kick her out, just hold the door open and let her choose. But YOU should STAY. Minimize your losses.
Well that's something you can't fully control. Fight for as much visitation as you can get, and make the most of the time you do get with her. One blessing from these messes is it teaches us to value the time we spend with our kids.
Your anxiety is largely based on fear of the unknown. Most of us come to find our fears were unfounded, that the "unknown" is in fact a hell of a lot better than being married to someone that doesn't want to talk to you, look at you or have sex with you.
Every one of us has been through it, and those of us that have it way in our rearview mirror can promise you that you have some really great things in your future, you just don't know it yet! It may be recon, it may not be, but when you get there, it won't matter because you'll be awesome either way.
I still want to act out on impulse, but I stop myself (or I have stopped myself so far at this point. Hope I can continue). Slowing down is a hard act to follow. I'm doing my best.
I want to stay but so does she. I told her that seeing her hurts me and I need to get out. The three on/three off works. I'm debating leaving Sundays as well so I only see her for a few minutes per week.
I'm anxious because I'm scared that I won't get a second chance. And that she won't be as beautiful, or smart, or sexy (I like busty women...) as her. I hope that I get that opportunity again. I really do. I can't control aging or my hair falling out, but I'm still healthy and feeling better daily.
I'm seeing great things already. But the progress has been slow. It's there, and I am an impatient person to boot. Like you said, I can't rush things (slow down). 8 months of S and I have been able to knock out so many issues and goals that I wanted to achieve for a very long time.The DB coach gave me quite a shot in the arm, so I know that my actions are being validated by a professional.
I still have hope for R. But I'm starting to see that I'm becoming a better MAN which is something I thought I would never get to be.
