I share pictures with mine, relate the odd "this cool/cute thing happened while they were with me" via text, and she does the same. Once a quarter or so, we have lunch to talk about how we think the kids are doing with the divorce and otherwise. We'll usually talk for a few minutes on drop offs/pickups, but mine are of the age now where we do most of our switches by picking them up from school, and I don't see her in those instances.
The kids like that we are civil and collaborative, so that's what I try to do.
Yes, this is largely how my XW and I are in regards to the kids as well (although our pickups are at our houses). I think most LBS's have to "go dark" for a while just to help themselves get over their WAS, but eventually most of us settle into this kind of a "peaceful coexistence" routine.
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If I loved her still, I don't think I'd be able to do it -- at least not well or without pursuit -- so I'm beyond glad I don't have to try to pull that off.
Agreed, you do have to "get over" your feelings for your XW before this kind of a setup can work smoothly.
