First post, what next?

[Ready2Change]

What is my next move? Should I try be more affectionate? Should I slack off again?

That is the best first post I have ever read. You are on the right path. You have come to the right place to get stellar advise.


Your Job as the H is to protect the marriage.

"I am sorry you feel that way" goes a long, long way.

You had every right to snoop when you believe there is a threat to your marriage. You are on a difficult path, but the skills you gain will be worth it.