kech, it came to me earlier that I have a good idea of what your issue with the fear and anger are. At that is you haven't let go of the man you married.

Here is the thing, and sandi covers this in her rules: The man you married is gone. Maybe forever. You have got to drop the illusion of who he was, and see him for who he has become.

Think of it this way. Pretend you and H divorce. After IC, and recovery you meet a gorgeous guy that is the man of your dreams. (I think you are younger than me so I don't know who all the young ladies pant after nowadays. Back in my day it was Brad Pitt.) You date a few times, you start to fall for him, but then he turns into who your H is now. What would you do? Dump him in a heartbeat, right?

This is why it is important to realize that the man you married is GONE. In his place is this new guy that is treating you like excrement. So what do you do?

M(53), W(54),D(19)
M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017
Ring and Piecing since March 2018