Husband cheated, trying 180 (3)

[Ready2Change]

Previously, H has been adamant that we can get divorce without lawyers. He says we just have to sign papers. I do not know if that is correct or what.

Yes you can. Get as much legal advise beforehand. DO NOT RUSH TO SIGN. Some take months. There can be many revisions. You can also get a mediator. (We can discuss details later)

I know you do not want to hear this, but it would be best if YOU DREW UP THE DIVORCE PAPERS.

Yes I am a talker and a fixer. I always want to fix things to be ok. And he is completely okay with things being on bad terms sometimes, I am absolutely the opposite. I will try to 180 these but man it is HARD.

The harder it feels, typically means it is the correct thing to do.

This has felt like the longest day in history.

I am sorry you are going through this. I would never wish this on my worse enemy. Things will get better. I assure you. When things get tough, focus on getting through a smaller time period. One day at a time. One hour at a time. One minute at a time.

I will be seeing him in about 4 and a half hours and if he walks in the door with papers I can already feel my heart drop.

PLEASE DO NOT LET THIS MAN BACK IN THE HOUSE. Have D and baby things ready to go. Get dress up smoking hot. Walk out on front porch. Do the exchange. Take paperwork if he has it. Do not read it at that point. Lock the door, Get in your car and drive away.

Read the paperwork TOMORROW.


Go to a coffee shop and sit an relax (I know that will be hard as blank)

You can do this.

HUGS