Well here's the latest. We to MC and it was a mixed bag. On the one hand she's more open to 'giving love a chance' and it seems my 'validating' sessions have worked because she feels she's been heard. My 180's seemed to have been noticed too. On the other hand every other issue we've ever had came up and was thrown in my face.
Our anniversary is Monday. She does not want to do anything. The therapist suggested we try and 'have fun' together and with the kids. W has agreed to spend time together on Labor day as a family.
Last night got a little heated. I came upset to find D9 upset. I was just with her for an hour and she was in a great mood talking about some new friends at new school. i asked what happened and W started to tell me D9 is really anxious because of the new school. I know one of my 180's is around these conversations. I always tend to take the opposing side and it pisses her off. I was aware of it and intended to agree with my W. I think the new school is much more rigid with policies and such so I do think it could be making D9 anxious. BUT, the first thing out of my mouth was 'that's too bad, she was in a good mood before she came up'....foot in mouth. I didn't even get to the part where I was going to agree with her. W said 'you see what your doing?...this is the cycle you need to break...I don't want to talk to you' and stormed off.
I know there will be bad interactions, but still stressful especially since had I gotten my sentence out if would have been a good 180. oh well.
