It is hard not to think that to gain our D, I had to lose my W. W used the word hate in place of "very poorly". it was very hard for me to understand her feeling like that, but I never discredited them and always encouraged her to go speak with someone about them, but that didn't happen best I know. I know that's a very difficult thing for a woman to admit/accept, but there are people who could have helped her process them. I would have done whatever she asked of me. I just tried to be supportive as best I knew.
Yes, I think once she felt trapped, her focus was to rewind as much as she could and that was getting rid of me. Her family will tell me "you are not the source of her unhappiness" and then they will point at our D. And yes each month a trip of a week to get away...from our sitch, D, family, job, basically any responsibility. My IC says it is her anxiety and she can only take so much real life before she needs to escape. You read about MLC over empty nests but with W it seems it's very MLC like but for new mom reasons.
I agree on the OM being a coincidental and less a primary reason for W leaving. There may/may not be a OM aspect to this. IC thinks another R is the last thing W would want right now, but who knows.
IC says there's no way I could have foreseen the change parenthood would bring on my W. It's just very hard to come to terms with when for seemingly everyone else it's a happy new chapter in your life together. W loves D very much, there's no question of that, but all of the other parts that go into that new identity, well W just rejects them and is now trying to roll back her life to before D, me and back to her single life. No reason to doubt W will divorce me, her family thinks she will regret it. I don't care really if she regrets it or not, I'm far from a vindictive person. I just feel that with some IC/MC we could resolve/improve and be happy. Sadly I don't think she is going to give us that chance.
