I got the financial part of the settlement done, emailed it to WAW and mediator a week ago, and haven't heard anything from either of them. I spoke to WAW last night, after we returned from an exhausting trip to drop S18 off at college, to ask if she actually received it. She said she, but didn't understand spreadsheets, and couldn't make heads or tails of it. She started to get upset, thinking I was demanding a response, but I quickly calmed her down by saying she could take all the time she wanted to look at it. I just wanted to know if she received it. I offered to explain it in nauseating detail whenever she wanted. She was fine after that, and said she'd take another look at it and get back to me.
We decided to travel with S18 to college. 11.5 hour drive each way. Left Monday, got back yesterday. I was dreading it, but determined to bring no drama to the occasion. Apparently, WAW felt the same way, and it was a really nice trip. I wondered what we were going to talk about on the way home, but it was actually very pleasant. We got a suite the first night, and S18 and I slept in one room and she slept in another. On the way home, we got two rooms. I paid the lion's share, but she contributed significantly.
I was determined not to pursue, bring up reconciliation, or discuss the divorce, and didn't. She didn't either, and I enjoyed the trip. I'm sure she did, too. While she was napping, though, I couldn't help but think "If we still get along this well, WTF are we getting divorced for?"
It was a bit of a setback, in that for the last month, I've been better with distancing, and remembering all the ways she wasn't a good wife, and didn't even try to meet my needs. While she was napping, I thought about bringing up reconciliation, but in the end, decided there wasn't any point.
I'm not sure where we're going to go from here, but I suspect it's one more mediation session where we go over the financial settlement line by line, sign off on it, and then hand it to the lawyers to schedule the rubber stamp by the court.
M:23 T:26 Me:53, Wife: 60 S:18 D:16 filed 7/16 W moved out 4/28/17
