That is very true. I've always heard it put "the one that loves least controls the relationship" but is is a similar concept.

And you are on the right track! I love seeing someone switch from "I am DBing to get my S back" to "I am DBing to get myself back!" Your last paragraph shows you are headed there. Well done.

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M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017
Ring and Piecing since March 2018