Steve85 - thank you so much for your kind words. I am literally hanging on there. I have been looking for some inspiration outside this website and found some youtube clips by Brian Nox- it applies more to the dating world but can be used for the marriage too. The biggest takeaway for me was this- "the person who needs less intimacy is the one who controls the relationship". He talks in a very straightforward language and says that if the other person ignores us, it simply means- they don't care for us. So therefore we don't need to go or do anything to make them need me more. Instead the best thing is spend time with people who appreciate me more than they do. So far I let my H control the relationship so I have to detach, disconnect from needing him, make him to be on his own and create sufficient space between us... so I don't need the validation from him to be my own person. Once this mindset will sink in, I believe that I will be on the right path for my own good.
W34 H61 M1 T3 June-H said he wants divorce but hasn't filed. Living and sleeping in the same bed, no intimacy from H side for last 12 months.
