The role playing with therapist had a great outcome - much better to see all that anxiety before mediation. Now you know, now you can prepare, knowledge really is power.
I do agree with Kyh, visualization is a powerful tool. Both positive and negative, so be careful. We all tend to focus on what might happen, what could go wrong, that sort of thing, we don’t focus much on what might happen on the positive side of all this. Try not to get lost in the doom and gloom.
Yes prepare on what might happen, when and if W monsters. You cannot stop or control W getting angry, let it go. Focus on your response (not reaction) to her. As Kyh said, remain calm and steer thing where you need them to go.
Make it through the meeting, you can breakdown and cry later when you get home. You might just find that you don’t need to as much as you are imagining.
I would like to speak about D10 a bit. From what I read she is a smart driven girl. She is pushing herself for good grades, I think you see she doesn’t need more pushing. She is looking for approval from other Mom, to be noticed.
You are the safe and sane parent, you need to provide the noticing, approval, and guidance D10, S10, and S9 require.
Whenever kids reach out to you, whatever it is, that is the most important thing in their life at that moment. They are pretty good in asking for what they need emotionally, we just need to listen.
D10 is wanting other Mom’s approval, not much you do to make that happen. Focus on what you can do, praise her, notice her.
You are doing really good.
Best of luck in upcoming meeting.
(((marina7)))
DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
