5 years ago my inheritance was taken and we needed that money to buy a bigger home that we needed for the kids sake. W inherited money 4 years ago and lied saying it was less.
I went through years of depression as we didn't quite have enough to buy what we wanted. I wouldn't have done if W had been honest saying how much she had inherited which would have been enough. W let me and kids suffer for years rather than be honest which would have allowed us to move-on together.
2 years-ago she gave the extra money (that I didn't know about) to her parents towards buying a house locally (that she has now moved into).
W must have had that on her mind for years and made excuses to have arguments etc. rather than tell the truth. I only realised all this a couple of weeks ago, and last night realised she could have saved me from years of feeling depressed. The day she left she said to me "You'll never feel able to trust me ever again"... and now I know why.
However, a few months before we split we were looking to get a new house. W had said to me she could get extra money towards it if her parents sold the house, so perhaps she had been seriously thinking of us moving on together at that stage.
At the moment, I'm feeling disappointed that she allowed me to be depressed for years over the issue rather than tell me the truth.
