You hope she is trying to "undo the mess". But that's just mind reading.

You shouldn't feel bad at all about not going to lunch with someone when it's just too inconvenient.

Counting days til the D is dismissed seems stressful. Why not just put a reminder on your phone for the day after, and do you best to not dwell on it?

H 34
W 29
BD 3/12/18
Divorce Busted Spring 19

It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.