Back for a bit. Here was the TL:DR version of session:
I've been DB for longer than 31 days (110 days). The process started on May 11 when I started to go out of my comfort zone and do things that I would enjoy. That was the day I went out and listened to music on my own late at night. It was rough going because W was on my mind CONSTANTLY. The process to GAL was slow but it gained steam as W didn't need to give me suggestions of GAL for me. I was able to find that stuff on my own. The arguments were getting fewer and further between but the real breakthrough came this past Monday when W finally told me her role in our split and we were able to identify our flaws that led to this breakdown.
DB coach says I'm ahead of where I should be. I need to GAL more. So while W is on vacation (likely with OM. She called me 5 times today. I answered once. She thought about giving me the contact number but never got it since her friend has it. I'm not going to bother asking for it, as much as I want it.).
DB coach said W is a WAW. She left because she felt there was no hope in me changing and M was not going to change, so she went to find it elsewhere. Said the changes I'm making and her acknowledging is now causing a battle in her mind...is my H really changing or will he go back to the man he was leading to our S? Hence the reason why I need to keep doing what I"m doing...Detaching, GAL, and...validating. Be the sweet man W fell in love with. I feel those traits coming back to me. What is it going to lead to? I don't know. But I do know that I'm an awesome dude and getting better regularly. Either W will recognize that, or some other lucky lady will.
