Not sure DB is working? AnotherStander help!

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Dear jlh,
I follow your sitch but I don't think I have commented yet.
I wish you and your family the best.
I can't comment on much, but I can respond in the total confusion you have as to how your spouse can be nice one moment and turn to their mood upside down and ignore you, yell at you, or just be mean for no reason. I don't know the technical term for it, but I can only say that this seems to be the norm. In my MR, if we are getting along for a few days it always seems that she "feels" she is getting too comfortable with "us". There are no R talks, no affection, etc. But you just see that we haven't fought in a long time, things have been smooth with the kids, and for the most part, there has been a new routine that everyone is falling into. She seems to just snap at the oddest times and turn cold or angry on a moments notice.

Is he trying to get a reaction out of you (positive or negative)?

Is he just trying to justify the decision within himself?

Who knows!!!

All you can do is make sure you are doing your 180's, GAL, always look and put forth your best (not fake!), validate, and be sure you think before you speak knowing sometimes it is best not to speak (fyi that last part is VERY hard for this guy!).
Good luck!!