WAW pt2

[jaylove]

I asume that her mirtazapine dosage is quite small? If used in bigger dosages(over 15mg) it can actually have an opposite reaction if used as a sleeping aid. Sertaline doesn't react quite good with alcohol either. Kind of funny that she has two antidepressants...

I read all of your posts and something just seems off. Like this is not your basic WAW/WW...but keep DBing. That is to keep you and your kids safe.

At one point you had a thought that your W might have NPD. To me it sounds more like a triggered trauma. But that really doesn't matter. You can not help her at the moment. Like everyone has said. Keep on the DB. You got this. You're on a good path already.

Hi Petri
She takes a quarter pill of Mirtazapine and the psychiatrist prescribed it primarily to help her sleep.
I read a thread here about people who have spouses that have been prescribed SSRI’s and how their personalities have completely changed and often ended up in divorce - that would completely explain what’s happened to my W since she started taking Zoloft (we call it Sertraline here in the U.K.) - I almost feel some relief that there is now a plausible explanation about what brought about the drastic change in her.
It only affects 9% of people who take SSRI’s but everything I’ve read (google SSRI divorce pill) is full of stories of people experiencing the same things
Some key quotes I’ve found :


straight from the annual meeting of the American Psychiatric Association as reported in the New York Times:

"Now, after years of families being guinea pigs for these drugs, comes the scientific research to show how the drugs actually produce the destruction of relationships that have survived years of many other traumas. The article discusses how they have found a sudden loss in feelings for a mate when using these drugs in marriages over 40 years old - marriages that have survived years of many other traumas."

"The researchers also point to more extreme cases like people who say losing their sex drives caused romantic feelings toward longtime spouses to evaporate suddenly."

“Over time many medicated partners will file for divorce. Not realizing the thing that changed was the delicate balance in their brain caused by the drug. Believing with all their heart and soul that they are in control of their feelings and finally doing what they want in their life.”

“By now you may be thinking if all this is true, then why are they seemingly so happy and content with the new life. The answer to that is simple. It’s because it’s new and never before experienced and because of that it can elicit a Dopamine response when the old ways couldn’t. Not because it’s better, simply because it’s new. “