WW- Equalzr's saga pt 2. WW's & MLC'er advice plz

[equalzr]

It probably looks like im a doormat type of guy, but i wasnt that way when this first started. I was an a hole to her quite a bit when she started going MIA, and rightfully so. She deserved every bit of it and now that i know what was actually happening i can say she deserved/deserves even more.

Thst said, there was a longer peiod of time where i was getting advice before finding db site, and that advice was to be patient, be a good husband, work on yourself, and dont give any ultimatums. These were all from christian sources so i followed along. Being a doormat is far from my personality. I think i was worried sbout pushing W away even further at one point so i will admit to that.

Sadly for the majority of the 1.5 years i was stuck being in nice guy mode and got played badly. I just didnt have anyone giving me advice that said otherwise unfortunately. As a result W built a long term R with OM and now it seems cemented and she wants out of M.