I know its part of being a parent and I take pride in being able to provide for my family, but when you ask a question and W responds "I don't have any money, you have to ask your Dad" It puts me in an awkard position especially if I have to say no.
I thought it was just common language in a family. That's what I heard growing up, and that's what was said to my own kids. If one parent doesn't have it, the kids are told to ask the other parent. IMHO, you are the one causing yourself to feel you are in an awkward position. You seem to hate having to be the parent who might possibly be seen as less favorable..... and at times, you seem almost envious of your W's "position" with the kids. I just think you bring unnecessary emotional stress upon yourself in matters such as this (with the kids).
I don't want to sound as if I am saying none of this is important. All forms of parenting are important. I'm talking about how it makes you feel. It's bad when there are serious M issues, b/c everything can become highly sensitive for the one who wants to save his MR. I am concerned how much it weighs on you, which I have previously expressed. You've been under a lot of emotional strain, and it might help to have someone to talk to in person. Have you considered talking to an IC?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
