L - I can tell you from my experience that you and your W will get divorced and if you two are to recon in the future it will be after both of you have been with other people. My XW moved out 3 weeks after BD and never looked back. If they do this while having young children at home you better believe that they have clearly thought this out and are ok with the consequences. I was in limbo for 8 months and chances are you won't get the papers until she is 100% sure that she has a landing pad with someone. Looking back on my sitch that is the reason why my XW drug it out so long because she was dating from the moment she moved out.
Focus on healing yourself and being the best father you can be. There is nothing you can do for her.
