Either way, they will be devastated. And I can't even type those words without tears welling up in my eyes. What kind of a woman does this to her kids without trying everything she can to save our family?! It fills me with sadness for my girls and anger toward W.
Hey, this is where the rubber meets the road. In my sitch, my wife's fantasy about moving out was actually not as strong as the fact that she didn't want to face our daughter. So every time I pushed to say, "We need to tell D soon about all of this, and your plan." She would immediately back down. I have a feeling that before this weekend she will begin to hedge. As the weekend gets closer, the likelihood she starts lobbying for more time will increase.
And she will have "valid" reasons. "I don't want to do it so close to the start of school." "Blah blah blah." Also, she will try to buy more time but that doesn't necessarily mean that she will be willing to give up OM and the apartment idea. STICK TO THAT BOUNDARY. "You call OM in my presence and issue a no contact edict. Further you agree to full transparency in all forms of communication. AND you break the lease on the apartment, and we sleep in the same bed."
She will try to wiggle out of this. She will try to call your bluff. Don't give her the wiggle room, stand firm.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
