Is It Too Late?

[WillD78]

LH and all,

Thank you.

I did it last night. It's still up in the air whether it will be this weekend or next weekend, but the drop dead date for her to move out is Sept. 8. I pushed for this Saturday, but she wants to tell our girls the news this weekend and then give them a week to process it before she leaves. I didn't commit to that, but my plan is to talk that over tomorrow with my IC, who is a family therapist, and see what he recommends. Whatever he and I decide will be in the best interest of our girls is what we will do.

Either way, they will be devastated. And I can't even type those words without tears welling up in my eyes. What kind of a woman does this to her kids without trying everything she can to save our family?! It fills me with sadness for my girls and anger toward W.

The conversation itself went OK. W got defensive but remained calm during the first phase of it. I was firm but calm. Yesterday I discovered that she was browsing sexy lingerie on Amazon. That piece of information coupled with OM's car parked at her townhouse on Sunday, I said, was enough for me to realize that I'm done and that she needs to be gone and soon. The talk was short. Later, she came to me crying, saying that she buys that stuff for herself; to feel good about herself and that it was for no one else other than herself. She felt that I had invaded her privacy. I told her I can understand why she feels that way and that I'm sorry she feels that way, but I think me looking at her Amazon history pales in comparison to what she is doing to our family. I know, not the best response. She cried for about 20 minutes. I remained stoic and calm. She went to bed about an hour early. And that was that.

IC tomorrow morning. Lord help me. The next few weeks are going to be rough for so many reasons.