Steve, did you actually draw up a proposal from your lawyer and show her?
No. I only did the initial consultation. However, it was very helpful. Really helped set my mind at ease and helped me take another step towards detachment.
And then I told her I had talked to a lawyer. Her face dropped. Remember she had it in her head we would do a quickie online D. No pain. No arguing. No issues. I also said that while the filing would be no-fault, I would be Ding her for unfaithfulness. (This was an important designation for us due to our religious beliefs.)
It was after that discussion that I think she started weighing the pain between staying and going. Especially since my 180s were making staying look more painless than prior to BD.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
