"We haven't been to MC. She just said a few times that she's got two referrals for counselors, a man and a woman. I told her IDC who we go to. I'd probably lean towards the woman, and she seems to lean towards the man."
Are you always indecisive like this? Leave these decisions up to her?
"Where should we eat tonight?"
"IDC, anywhere you want."
"I am looking at new curtains, which of these two do you like better?"
"IDC, either one is fine."
Etc?
If so, 180 on that! When women ask a man for his opinion and he doesn't have one, that tells her he doesn't care. I mean, IDC is right in the answer most of the time! So 180 on that. You can give an opinion, without it coming across as being right or wrong.
"Where should we eat tonight?"
"I was thinking we'd go to that steakhouse on West Boulevard."
"I am looking at new curtains, which of these two do you like better?"
"I like both of those, but I think I like the ones on the right better."
This is a huge 180 you can make. Most of the experts on anti-divorce I read after BD were insistent on this one 180. Find that decisiveness, and when she asks your opinion, have one!
Even better, don't wait for her to ask. If you know you two were eating out that night, you initiate. "I was thinking we'd eat at that steakhouse on West Boulevard tonight."
Decisiveness breeds respect. Respect breeds attractiveness. Attractiveness breeds your W falling back in love with you.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
