Still here. Still not detached... (Part 3)

[Gordie]

Chris73

So good to hear from you

Was just in the poconos in your neck of the woods

Agree you have to fake detachment until you make it

Cannot be forced

Only you know your boundaries

When my w got in a serious R and introduced the kids to OM

I was depressed

And then I was angry

And then insisted we get divorced

Limbo without OM was ok

Limbo with OM was unbearable

I went dark and really stopped interacting with her

All while still cohabitating

When the d was about to go final

She dropped the D and the OM

It is still complicated but getting better

Not saying you should do the same

Just wanted to share what happened to me