WW shows up at the house and wakes me up to "talk" about the "important things" she wanted to talk about yesterday. Of course after scolding me for ignoring her, then almost cries. Oh well.
I quickly answer her questions by saying: -show the house whenever you want -leave the internet/tv service as is
She follows up with asking how much do you want to pay the realtor if they offer. I replied that I don't care. Then that she can't get the internet/tv service dropped and I have to talk to them. Great. I agree to call them. "Important things" solved.
Then I go about my morning, gotta feed and water the dog and let her out and water plants. WW follows me out back and out front to tell me how this is all my fault, how the dog's name is dumb, is the dog peeing all over the house, tells me I haven't changed.
I remembered in my had to listen and validate, but not at first. Then WW leaves for work and calls immediately, to tell me what the realtor said. But wait! There's more! She tells me it hurts bc I act like I don't give a shoot about her at all. That I act like she ripped my life apart, but that I really did that to her. She literally said "I'm just shocked that you don't care about my feelings at all" and begins crying. W. T. F.
How I don't care about her or her feelings and that if she was the one who ruined things she would be bending over backwards to accommodate, but that she was always on the back burner and never a priority to me. Manipulation. I'm making things hard on her b/c I want to, and it's games.
I ripped her life apart. I don't give her the time of day. I don't put myself in her shoes. Why is she where she is? That the least I could do is make it easier on her. She doesn't get respect. If she needs my help, that I should make it easy for her. Says she knows why I don't want to make it easy for her but that it's not fair. (That's right!)
I stood firm against her lies that she was not a priority, we talked all day long before. I told her I won't be there 24/7 and that she can figure some stuff out on her own. Told her that there's a difference between my being an ass before and what she is doing.
Then I get 3 texts and 5 more calls. Not answering those. I literally have things to do.
Trying to figure if I should be home tonight to do what she wants, rebuild a retaining wall.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
