My BD was in early April and in the nearly 5 months since then I saw my W a total of 4 times, all but one of those being scheduled meetings. Our contact has been non-existent. Part of that was my two month trip but even when I was in town, and living in the same neighborhood we never crossed paths. Then on Friday we both ended up at the gym at the same time. Saturday, we crossed paths out on the street as I was going out to dinner. Sunday I came home from a bike ride and she was still out with the dog, and brought him back as I was watering the garden. Monday, I was riding my bike home from dinner, and she rode by me with a female friend with yoga mats. The last time on the bike, I said hi, mainly because the word was coming out of my mouth before I could even see who was on the bike.
It is just weird, and completely coincidental. I certainly don't read anything into it, but it does put her in my mind more. I think I prefer the lack of contact. It is much easier to not give her any of my mental space when I don't need to see her. Is that ignoring the problem, a healthy step towards detachment, or both?
W 34 Me 42 Married 7 years together 8 0 kids 1 beloved dog BD 4/6/2018 I moved out 4/7/2018 I moved back in alone 8/05/2018 I file 3/06/2019 D official 5/7/2019
