I agree with your basic premise, Benito. For David to really progress, it is imperative to really focus on what is important to him and become and embody that new David2.0.

That said, I 100% disagree that the best and only path forward is to file for divorce. To me, divorce is a legal issue. If there some advantage you need financially or in custody or for personal protection....then sure, go ahead and file. But to me, anecdotes like this
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I know from speaking to numerous people, that if their partner had stolen from them.. They would be out of the door asap!!
mean nothing. There are plenty of people who make mistakes or bad choices. Im not saying to go in blind, but I 100% disagree that this is an "automatic" divorce just because other people (who are not in this situation) think you should do that. Yes, theres a lot of damage done and yes, there would be a lot of work needed to repair everything...but I dont think just filing is a great solution.

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That hope may feel like small salvation in a sea of pain - however ultimately it is not healthy and it is so counter intuitive it is untrue.

I think it is perfectly OK and valid to "hope" you win the lottery As long as that hope isnt guiding your decisions. You wouldnt buy a house knowing that there is a chance you could win a million dollars in the lottery. So why would you live your life based on a chance that you and W will recon.

Be the man you want to be. Maye you will recon. Maybe not.

Either way, you will have learned how to live a successful, happy life!