Is It Too Late?

[WillD78]

Thanks, guys.

So, how do I balance this advice to give her the boot with other advice that I have heard in the past along the lines of: "If you don't want her to move out, then don't do anything to hurry it up."

I know the answer. She crossed a line. I made the threat, so I need to follow with action. It just [censored].

We talked yesterday and we agreed that she will be out in two weeks. She is hanging around to give D7 time to adjust to the new school year before throwing another adjustment at her. At this point, I am OK with this. Perhaps it's a crutch, but I really do think it's best to wait a couple more weeks for D7.

I have an IC appointment on Thursday, and I think I will set a firm date for her to move after talking it over with my therapist.

I feel like I'm going a bit crazy. One minute I hate this woman for what she has done to me and our R and our Ds, for lying to me consistently, and for so cavalierly throwing away our life together. The next minute I want to call her and tell her I love her and cuddle up with her on the couch.

And the gaslighting is real. Half the time I find myself thinking, what if she is telling the truth? What if Sunday was a coincidence? My W really can't be that much of a stone cold, heartless -- and really bad -- liar. This is such a bad lie, so outlandish, that I almost find myself believing it.

Why is she lying? She's signed a lease. She has told me she is leaving me. Why lie about this? SMH. Makes no sense.

OK. Go ahead and 2x4 me.