Arsh, you and I both have a lack of experience with men it sounds. That's amazing you met your husband at age 19. It's so hard to believe you're living without him for the first time. You two literally grew up together and did everything together. Didn't you ever notice other men though or didn't other men show signs of interest from time-to-time? Perhaps one day you'll just fall in love with someone new by accident and you'll be willing to take a risk. I wish that'd happen to me.
Is this the first or second time your husband has visited his "friend" since he left? If it's the second time I'd say it's guaranteed he met a woman and that's why this divorce is happening. I still think that's a best case scenario. You can rest easy knowing you weren't too controlling and that's not why he left. You can also look forward to his fun new relationship ending and him getting burned. There's a high chance that'll happen. It's better to not know details but it's also good finally knowing the reason why this divorce is happening.
Your husband's actions have been very similar to my husband's actions. My husband believes he didn't get to enjoy his life when he was young and have fun (in other words, he didn't get to date 100 women and sleep with each or whatever). Maybe your husband has the same thoughts like "I've been with Arsh since age 19 and I never got to experience other women. Now I'm stuck at home with a tired rundown wife, crying baby, and there's this beautiful woman who seems interested in me!" Perhaps the temptation combined with the hardships of having little kids at home with a ton of responsibility was more than he could bear. Not that that excuses him in any way because 99.5 / 100 men won't abandon their wives after they have kids but apparently your husband was vulnerable and took the bait. Who knows what really happened but he'll wake up one day. Just wait. I feel so sure about that in your case.
It's good to dedicate your life to your daughters. I'm doing the same for my daughter. She's only four and she deserves a mom who's fully focused on her upbringing, not out dating random men while she goes to school all day and sits with a babysitter all night. It's soooo hard to believe some of the stories about wayward wives on this board are true. I can't imagine a 40 year old woman out clubbing with her friends while her kids sit at home with the husband all wondering where mom is. That's a deviation from your thread except I commend you for being level headed and keeping your priorities straight. Every kid deserves that from both their parents but if they don't get that from one then that adds even more pressure to the other.
