insight I gained was just how hurt she really is with how we have been communicating. We've been in a bad cycle for the last year where one of us says something which leads to bickering, she escalates it, then I get defensive...it just goes in circles.
Your job is to "listen" to understand. Listen with enthusiasm. Learn as much as you can about this woman. She is not who you believe she is. Challenge your belief system.
Originally Posted by klau
She does seem to be working herself up to work on the R, but she is very emotional and her natural reaction is to run away. She doesn't trust that I (we) can change.
Make it "safe" for her to vent. Make it "safe" for her to be emotional. You are the "Rock". Turn your "scary" emotions OFF.
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