She said that by forgiving and entering piecing she feels she has let down her promise to herself to not make another run at us even though she wanted to.
I would say this is a good start. But piecing is about the process and the actions. Not just the words. My fear is that there are already a lot of fears and trepidation on her side based on the info you have below. You will not be perfect going forward. Nor will she. How will you navigate those periods of adversity without reverting to old habits and patterns? Please consider marriage counseling NOW to help ensure that you two stay patient and committed to your growth and to each other.
Originally Posted by Seekn
For too long I have taken her for granted and mistreated her in all ways but physically.
For example, with this kind of statement, Im worried that you will go 'too far' the opposite way and lose your identity and our attractiveness for her. As this has all happened in the span of 3 weeks, Im not sure you ever learned how to re-stand on your own. So how will you maintain your changes while keeping a firm grasp of self while not overpursuing....all while understanding that SHE is learning all of these same things at the same time. Thats why I think working with a professional to resolve these issues and help maintain your commitment to each other is vitally important.
Originally Posted by Seekn
I know this will take a long time, months, even years to regain what has fallen apart, and I look forward to the start of this journey and embrace it. I know she is still quite skeptical and guarded and understand why.
This makes me nervous that she wont/doesnt have the patience to go for weeks/months or years. Her actions will tell a lot. Hoping for the best for you.
