So the weekend was long and had it's ups and downs. Only second weekend since this roller coaster started and first one without extended family visiting. Thursday night we had a conversation that pretty much ended with 'when do we tell our friends we are getting separated'. Friday I spent a good amount of time detaching as best as possible and doing 180's. Went out for drinks with a friend Friday to GAL. When I came home she had been talking to her brother who lives overseas obviously talking about us.
Saturday morning she did something she hasn't done in a while...wore her wedding ring. She was civil and polite. I took D9 and D4 to the park for the day then later my W took D9 to a birthday party in the afternoon. I made dinner and we all ate together. There was more interaction then we've had in weeks. More than the playing married we've been doing in front of the kids. Sunday she took the kids to her brothers for a pool party. It was a bummer that I couldn't go and I know the kids felt it. I spent the time GAL and doing 180's in regards to housework etc. Had another family dinner last night as well.
We sat down to talk after the kids were in bed because our therapists assigned us homework of talking 5 minutes a day. She told me that Friday she connected with her old therapists to get a recommendation for a new therapists near her work. They talked a little and her therapist told her to remember 'the problem isn't either of us, but the problem is the problem.' She then went on to express that she wants to 'give love a chance' for us and the kids, but its really hard.
I know to only believe 50% of this stuff so I keep doing my thing and see where our couples therapy takes us Tuesday. I've got this looming mid September deadline. Our 14th anniversary is in a week....not sure how that's going to affect things.
