The reason WAWs and WWs don't think it's bad for the kids, or even think it's better for them, is because they've been struggling with this for a long time. They've gone to grips with it in their own mind. Trying to use the kids and what's better for them is a cheeseless tunnel. The WW only cares what she perceives is better for her.
This. Its really true that they feel they have done so much for their families, and now its time for them and their happiness. Other than that, they truly have blinders on.
Together:20 years M:3 years Me:40 WW:40 S15 A suspected:5/17 AC:5/18 BD:8/18 WW in full blown R w/ OM Still under same roof
