There's no recipe for making a physical attraction go away. One day, you'll just see more of what's inside her than out, and you'll be glad you improved yourself and moved on. That you escaped a life with a woman who'd treat you the way she's treated you. You'll know you tried as hard as could be expected of anyone and that she didn't. You'll realize she's squandered years in which she could have developed as a human being and didn't, and it will turn you off.
I sense that you're frustrated with the pace at which you're healing. I don't blame you. Just realize it will happen, and bring your focus back to the now. The more you worry about the future, or fret about the past, the more unhappy you'll be in the only moment that matters: now.
How many days in a row have you meditated?
Me: 46 W: 44 Married: 17 Together 21 D13; S10 BD: 03.03.15 (Not attracted to you) Almost 2 years trying, alone, to save marriage Status now: Divorced (effective 06.13.17)