Hi ovrrnbw Yeah i know man,unfortunately im thick and delusional in thinking my W was different somehow lol. She can be pretty convincing about not sleeping with anyone but all the signs point in that direction.
WW works, ive never asked how much she earns, though its not enough to cover the bills and her current lifestyle. The problem with cutting her off is im paying half the rent for the house we lived in together,D is still there with WW . D can live at IL. I dont want my D to look at me as crappy father(W and MIL have already painted a grim portrait of me)D seems brainwashed. 9months ago i was the best SIL,father ect ect in the MIL eyes but now im the scum of the earth since her D betrayed me.
The last i spoke to WW i told her im sick of being manipulated,lied to,and being used,treated like a doormat....she had some choice words then hung up...no contact since!! I would have still married W but would of treated her better than i did,i totally see me mistakes in the marriage and really wished she would have stayed and worked things out with me,pretty sure that boat has sailed forever.
Yeah i know its bugging me to no end not knowing what the hell is going on in her life with who,but i know theres nothing i can do to get the truth from her...atm she would convince me the sky full of flying pigs and i would believe her...ugh...but i know shes full of chit!!! lol i cant believe she has such a hold on me...i guess its because i love her so much!! quiet silly how one can be decieved so much in the name of love.
I agree with you 100% Im so transparent atm its ridiculous!!!! Shes all over me,always is two steps ahead too.
I want to let her go,i know she is being influenced by her divorced/single friends and her evil best friend(no excuses for WW but she can be easily led by others)
I know many LBS ask this question....ill go there too lol.Should i just give up on WW or fight for our marriage,a new R with her.I dont like this new selfish person she is but i know there is something left of the old her tucked away somewhere.
From reading my sitch....am i flogging a dead horse? Despite whats happened i still love her and kind of feel sorry for her that she cant see that shes fcking her own life up aswell as our D's. I love the woman and want to save our R by Db ect...I know its her decision and cant do a damn thing about it but has anyone seen a bad sitch like mine turn around and have a happy ever after?
I think im in dreamland though right ?
Thanks for your input ovrrnbw as usual you put my chaotic brain into focus again. I really need support of others in this place,i would chime in on others threads but am in no position to give any advice as i dont know what the hell to do in my own crisis atm,but i really wish all the best to everyone in their darkest hrs and hope for the best outcomes for you all.
How do i find cadets links and sitch from day one?
