It probably wasn't DBing but I just completely ignored her for the hour and a half I was there, and she didn't approach me either. At the time, I didn't know if I could be civil to her, I felt like I might tell her to "F#$k off" or otherwise express the resentment that I talked about in my previous message. I felt like that might not be the most productive strategy.
I often feel we are on a predictable journey, from the various threads I read and the timelines, we cycle through denial, depression then the anger sets in and we go through cycles of this amidst gaining slow acceptance. I think it is wise to avoid her if you feel you might not even be able to be civil. Remember you may not feel this angry in just a few days, the cycles are unpredictable. Just focus on yourself, you dont want to ever show her she still has power over you. Anger is not detachment, its a step in the process I think.
