All I can say is that I feel your pain. My BD was 3/12.
We can only work on the things we control in this life. You have to let go of the things you can't control. You have do it for yourself and for any chance to save things. Your W didn't marry a sad, unhappy man. She married someone with great qualities and who made her feel great. Find that man, detach from the things cannot control. Work on making your life great again.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
