Incoming III (The DB Journey gains steam?)

[ovrrnbw]

Here is where I am going with this. Since our S, I have made it clear numerous times (last time was in June), that I refused to have a partnership like her friend. That I deserved a second chance at love, and whatnot. So to have W bring this up...I initially wanted to say that this "partnership" we have is not what I want in my marriage and I don't want this, etc. BUT, I remember what this group said:

This was progress, you did not go NGS on her. You made it clear that you aren't going to support her financially while she lives a separate romantic life.

So...I kept my cool and happy demeanor. Made her laugh quite a bit and we moved on from the conversation without much issue. As we were in the checkout line, I noticed a tiny thumb ring. I asked her that's a nice ring and I asked where did she get it. She responded that she bought it at Target. Minutes later I give my D4 to W, and close W's door when she got in (still a gentleman and still habit). They are now out picking blackberries, going school clothes shopping and are going to have a slumber party with OM's friend's kids.

More progress IMO. You drew your line and moved on. You didn't get emotional in front of her.

Obviously detaching is easier said than done. I started doing this last night when I was out:

"Hey guys, I really didn't come out to talk about WW, let's talk about something else." And for me, it's all about building some happiness. I don't get that by dwelling on WW. Sometimes I want to talk about it and vent and hear people validate me, but sometimes I just like the feeling of fun or accomplishment so that is why making yourself detach is for the best.