Are her credit cards getting paid off out of a joint account? You need to have a serious discussion about separating your finances in order to protect yourself. I would get on that ASAP. My W was spending 1k a month on a credit card that drew on our joint account while we were first separated. I didn't want to see that, nor did I want to control her. Having a serious talk about how we were going to function going forward was important and healthy. If your W is running up serious debt, you need to take care of it ASAP. I am no expert on finances (Vanilla is really good), but you can check out my older thread as lots of people gave me very good advice.
Yes, all our cards get paid from our joint checking acct. She always handles all the bills, and i just never paid much attention. Obviously I never expected a D to be possible.
Ya if anyone has any advice on how to discuss this Id love to hear it. Im sure shell get very defensive, and say its for needed items. Which may be true, but idk. The other night she said 'you think we're financially fine, but were not'. News to me. Maybe her $60/week wine habit isnt helping....
Married: 15yrs Ages: Me 49, W 44 Kids: S12 BD: around 4/14
