Did, you need to detach and stop the pressure. There is pression over your W and over yourself too. Are you enjoying those tennis table match R talks? There’s no need of all of that. You have to come to the scene from a powerful position. How do you get that? DBing...detaching should be the first achievement. Just read again Steve’s, Sandi’s, AS’s, Loves’s, etc, etc, etc.
Do you want your wife back? detach! Do you want to go on with life? detach!