Again, that's up to you. My advice is to let her bring it up. But look T these sitches are unique in their complexities. So if asking her how it went will work in your sitch then do it.
I'm my threads you'll see that I instituted talk charges and touch charges. That isn't strictly DBing and certainly wouldn't work in the vast majority of the sitches on this board, but did in my sitch.
Do what works. Stop what doesn't. All I suggest is to not proclaim something a failure because you don't want to do it. Be honest with yourself.
Steve, when you get a chance, can you post a link to your initial sitch? I'm still having trouble searching and finding specific things on here. I thought I stumbled across it once, but can't find it again!
Married: 15yrs Ages: Me 49, W 44 Kids: S12 BD: around 4/14
