Husband Left for Second Time - 6

[Jim1234]

Nicole, there is nothing inherently wrong with being in limbo. It just [censored], but it does give you the gift of time, to either reconcile, or allow you to get your own mind straight about what you want. Limbo will only last as long as you want it to. When you are tired of being in limbo, and trust me on this, you will get tired of being in limbo, it's fairly easy to move on.

As far as dating, if you don't want to, don't. I get that. Personally, I don't think you are giving men enough credit. Do most of the men you'll meet want to sleep with you? Yes. But just because you date them doesn't mean you have to sleep with them. My suggestion is not to think of "dating" as "a prelude to sex". Just think of it as a pleasant evening out with interesting conversation, some decent food, or maybe an activity that's just fun or different.

Also, go where like-minded men go. Your Mr Right isn't at a singles bar, but maybe he's at church or a mosque. I suspect you'll run into some there who are divorced, against their wishes, and will respect where you're coming from.