Is there hope? I have a WW

[LANE777]

Okay...where do I start.
W called and wanted to make sure the kids were packed and ready to go when she shows up. Then she said that I needed to talk to D15 about her not wanting to come stay or do anything with her. I told her that I have tried and that she really doesn't want to right now. She then asked " what are you telling her to keep her from wanting to come over"? I said " I don't tell her any thing, I also said thats something you and her should probably discuss. I did mess up and wasn't validating very good. I also said that I didn't want my d to resent me if I made her do things she didn't want to do etc. She was very irritated with the whole conversation. We hung up and she immediately called D15. She went in the other room. But she was telling her D that she is disappointed that she won't come stay or hang out. But one of the things she said is that its going to be a bad custody battle ! to my Daughter!! My D basically said "really mom" ? "I know what your up to. You hang out with that guy and you went camping with your friends instead of your family." "I really don't believe you when you say all these things". Then W told her that my friend comes over and we play games with Gma and Gpa. There was more but that was the gist of it. My D was very upset and crying. She said her mom just basically yelled at her the whole time.

So, I knew she was coming so I got all cleaned up like I was headed out for the night. She came and picked up the 2 little ones. She came in as I was sorting through clean clothes for s6. As she walked out I thought I would validate a few things from earlier phone call with me. I said, so I understand what your saying when D15 doesn't want to come over. I will do my best to talk to her and see what I can do. Right now she's not interested in anything because of what going on between us. Then she lied right to my face about the OM. She said, there is noting going on between us and hasn't for a while. She said my friends come over to the house and hang out with me and my parents...lol...She said that she is very hurt about d15 not wanting to be around her. " she doesn't believe a word I say so I am done and when she wants to talk she can come to me"
I said, well okay. I will try talking to her a little bit and do my best. I said, "she really doesn't know what your up to all the time because there hasn't been a whole lot of communication between any of us anymore.
A few times I did catch her looking me over with my new threads lol...no big deal. Anyways she was kind of irritable and I wanted it to end it. She then said, "well I got to go, I have headache".... I said " I gotta go to ..bye!

I know I need to work on my validating skills. I sat there and listened to her lie right to my face about her R with OM.

Kind of a sloppy write up..sorry for being all over the place on this one.

Anyways, not a lot but it seemed like it for a short amount of time.