And a follow up, she has noticed new clothes and is questioning why I needed them. Still just the start but she is still basically nc with me as a sign of loyalty to the OM. Not drinking either for the same reason and it lets her guard down to her true feelings for me.
H-50 W-48 T-19 M -18 S23, S14 BD - 5/9/2018 OM discovered 5/10/2018
In house sep - 8/18/2018 Rope drop 2/15/2019 R'ing since 3/15/2019
Dunno, she is now spending weekends away, coming home late from work and living in room. Under limited divorce filing we cohabitate with nc, extremely limited personal contact and the court will determine her household contribution which is $0 now even though she makes plenty. The term is one year before divorce can be finalized so I would think that is enough time for her to get it and either come around or agree that this is goin nowhere.
H-50 W-48 T-19 M -18 S23, S14 BD - 5/9/2018 OM discovered 5/10/2018
In house sep - 8/18/2018 Rope drop 2/15/2019 R'ing since 3/15/2019
Talking to attornery today and seriously contemplating filing for D. Affair continues, NC continues, detachment continues, but I feel like I need to see the light at the end of the tunnel. This isn’t out of anger, anxiety, etc, I feel this is my part of GAL, I don’t see her coming around unless she realizes she will lose her family and what she has now. Isn’t that the goal?
H-50 W-48 T-19 M -18 S23, S14 BD - 5/9/2018 OM discovered 5/10/2018
In house sep - 8/18/2018 Rope drop 2/15/2019 R'ing since 3/15/2019
Talking to attornery today and seriously contemplating filing for D. Affair continues, NC continues, detachment continues, but I feel like I need to see the light at the end of the tunnel. This isn’t out of anger, anxiety, etc, I feel this is my part of GAL, I don’t see her coming around unless she realizes she will lose her family and what she has now. Isn’t that the goal?
Is this out of impatience? When was BD for you? It was 3 months ago? You realize that that is a drop in the bucket. Expecting your W to turn around on this that quickly is grossly unrealistic. Now I am not suggesting that you don't talk to an attorney. You should. But I would consider taking more time to decide on if you want to pull the trigger.
If you want to file because YOU want to get D'd, then go for it. If you want to file because you want to stop the PAIN, then I would hesitate. Because that won't have the desired effect.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
