Getting Back to my Old Self

[DonH]

I guess there is more to comment about when things are not going well, huh? LOL What else is there to say at this point. But hang on, I'm sure bumps in the road will be forthcoming. LOL. So I said I had a good story and I do - I think.

Back in 1992, I'm pretty sure, I met this woman that an older guy that volunteered for the organization i administered had started dating. Both "Harry and Sally" have since become good friends - especially Sally. She just gets me. Harry had to have been between 45 and 50 and Sally was between 35 and 40 when they met. He was recently divorced from his first and I think only wife????? Not positive on this. He had several kids. She was D'd for the third time. I paid far less attention to couples and things like that back then. I was never married, pretty sure I didn't have a real GF, and still several years away from meeting my exW. They started living together within a year or so and things stayed that way, well, until now.

I used them as a great example of why you don't have to get married to be together over the long term. They pretty much were married in every sense of the word but after three failed attempts for her and at least one or perhaps two for him, neither wanted to get married again. Well Harry recently had triple bi-pass heart surgery. Imagine my shock then when I got a text last week informing me they got married. "It's amazing what staring death in the eye will do to you" Sally told me. LOL see for me staring death in the eye would be getting married again. But in part for practical reasons - Harry is worried his kids will cut Sally out of everything if they are not married - but he also realized how much he needed and loved her while staring death in the eyes, So there you have it, rather than celebrating what could have been a 25th wedding anniversary - they got married. And just like that, there went my example of why marriage is only a piece of paper. You just never know what lies ahead!

Wild Girl remains really, really excited about the cruise. I am as well - mostly because now I don't have to worry about finding someone to go with me. It is very interesting to watch her walls coming down, however. Or perhaps it's showing me how much she had her walls up. I can just sense and feel the difference in her. She really must have been waiting for me to dump her - which I now think was part of the reason for her trying to keep things casual. The more I get to know her, the more I see shades of Ginger in her - perhaps not even shades but direct comparisons. To be sure, Ginger does not keep things casual, but they are alike in many other ways. She said she was not going to tell anyone about the cruise for a while. Yeah, well so much for that, and I knew it would be the case. Just too excited not to share it with her close friends - who all continue to just tell her to relax and enjoy it all. Several have also told her - look you are dating him, he may even be your boyfriend now. She didn't tell me this but one of her BFFs did. I've been fine with the term of dating all along. But, damn, I may eventually have a girlfriend I guess - even though we've not at all talked about that, and I don't think she will bring it up - not for a while anyhow - and Lord knows I won't!!!! LOL

I'm a little on guard, but not as much as I thought I'd be. I'd still say we are at a good pace for coming up on three months - at least a good pace for me. Others might be much father along than me at this point. But that's just me, and as long as she doesn't turn into a clingy, obsessive, different person, i'll be fine. I can't see that happening. I just really do think, due to her past, etc., she really did think that I was going to move on pretty soon here. That's what many of the other guys have done - or she pushed them to do?????? I'm still doing very well living in the moment and not worrying about the future - perhaps the hour distance and three full years of high school for her youngest are also helping me with that. Those girls are totally #1 in her life - and I'm very happy to keep it that way. Still, this is interesting territory for me in recent years. I may date the same woman for 9 months or even a year. Totally did not see that coming. I have always thought I could see myself following in Harry and Sally's footsteps with someone. Well, up until this past week anyhow. I still don't at all see Wild Girl becoming Sally, but I guess stranger things could happen.

I guess I get to say... for the first time in a while... life is good - life is really, really good!